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Shy guys will attest that approaching women is like walking the plank. Surely they’re not implying women are pirates. Or are they? Granted, they don’t all walk on peg legs with parrots parched on their shoulders, but they have golden booties and treasure chests. Some even hook our hearts. So be careful when you walk the plank. Follow our guide and don’t let her rob your soul. The key is to make women say, “YES!” not “YAAARGH!”

30 Second Rule
When it comes to approaching the ladies, you just gotta do it. Most guys focus too much energy on preparing what to say and planning everything out in their heads. Using this method tends to trap them into two ungainly predicaments. The first involves the guy obsessing over his presentation to the point of becoming lost in his own web of hypothetical what-ifs and plan Bs. Soon enough, he begins to doubt himself and ultimately chooses not to ask the girl out. So much for planning everything out…

In the second quandary, he does approach the girl. But the conversation’s nothing like he had foreseen, thus not only throwing out his only game plan, but shifting the guy into panic mode and eventually, self-destruct mode. Sound familiar?

Enter the 30 Second Rule. Why 30 seconds? Because that’s how long the window of opportunity is open for business. See her? Don’t give yourself the time to think. Just walk over and introduce yourself. “Hi, I’m Andy.” Cupid will take care of the rest.

“CUT! Take 2,495!”
Chances are, you’re not Matthew McCaughnahay, and you’re not reading a script. So quit rehearsing lines in front of your bathroom mirror. In reality, you won’t always have the perfect one-liner to make her laugh and melt at the same time. You’re gonna screw up, but it’s okay. Actors screw up too. You just never see it in the theaters.

Improvise. You could read as many date-related articles as you want to get a brief glimpse of what to expect, but you won’t see the entire picture until you come in contact with the actual product. An advice is designed to set you on the right footing, but it’s easier read than done. The more you start confronting your fears and confessing your love, the more you’re likely to see desirable results.

It was meant to be...
A lot of shy guys are waiting for “the one,” or “smart and intelligent heroine” to fly into their cities and rescue them from their craven cycle. I don’t know if that’ll ever happen, but I do know this. If you’re avoiding the opposite sex because you’re earnestly praying for your dream girl to walk into the club, once she does, you won’t know whether to buy her a drink or a pack of Yu-Gi-Oh! cards.

Start improving your chances by actively pursuing women in general. They don’t have to be 10s, 8s or even 5s. You don’t always have to ask them out. Just talk to them. Compliment them. Get a feel for what it’s like to communicate with a female stranger. Once you’ve broken your timid barrier, you can gradually start asking for digits and progress from there.

Or you can always wait for someone else with more experience to steal your dream girl’s heart, and she’ll make him a lucky guy at least for that night. And you’ll probably excuse the cold shower with, “Well, I guess it wasn’t meant to be…